Jun 30, 2011

This Life is Not a Chick Flick!

Which is actually a good thing..
(Disclaimer: Most of you probably already know all of this. It's just what's been on my mind, and I wanted to figure out how to say it. Besides, I figure it's been so long since I updated this that no one will see it anyway.. So here we go!)
Reasons (referring to the title):

1--One "Happy Ending" will usually invite another problem.
In movies, there's the typical story line we're taught in Elementary school. There's the intro, the rising issues, the climax, and the resolved ending. From there on out it's blue skies and sunshine! It's pretty satisfying.
In LIFE, it's not that simple. Unfortunately.
As soon as one issue is resolved, another will undoubtedly arrive. It's supposed to be that way. We aren't supposed to be comfortable in this life. It's how we learn, adapt, grow, mature, and prepare for the life after this one! Isn't that marvelous?!

2--One person's "love" is another persons.. something else.

This is a new realization for me, and it makes me ridiculously happy.

In movies, after two people fall in love they seem to know exactly how the other person feels, their actions are natural, and they almost always get married after a year or so. It seems almost thoughtless.

In LIFE, it's a little different.
Love means so many different things to EVERY SINGLE PERSON.
It's tough to explain, but I think this quote says it best:
"Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have" (Author Unknown)
I guess what I want to say is this: Don't expect too much from the people you love. My mom always says "Give 90%, Expect 10%".
If you don't have preconceived notions of how your darling and dear should treat you, you can't be disappointed. And it's more likely they'll surprise you with their own unique and fabulous way of showing how much they care about you. 
It makes me feel fabulous when I realize that my relationship with my fiance is COMPLETELY new and unique.

3-- Even love takes HARD WORK.
In movies, after the main character falls in love, all the issues fall away. They can live in a happy stupor for the rest of their lives.
In LIFE, I feel like my life is FINALLY beginning!
It's going to be awesome.... and extremely hard.
I get to share the rest of my life with someone who wants nothing more than to be with me. That's probably the greatest feeling in the entire world.
However, our respective lives have been COMPLETELY different up to this point. It's going to be a struggle to mesh them together, make compromises and sacrifices, until we can finally get to the point where we know every minimal thing about each others quirks and preferences. I'm excited for that. :D
Also, it's much easier said than done to be completely selfless.
That's definitely something I think I'll always need to work on. For now, I'll start with my fiance. I'll focus on putting his needs and desires before my own. After I master that I can move on to the rest of the world.

I absolutely LOVE this time of my life. It's stressful, exhausting, and a little bit scary. But I love to feel like I'm progressing. I love that my selfish time is over and I can learn how to use my life to serve others. Yippeeeee!!!!

Also, if anyone knows of any nice, inexpensive apartments for rent in the murray/midvale area, will you give me the info? Thanks. :D


Larissa said...

I love these thoughts - the quote about someone maybe not loving us how we want but loving us with all they have really hits home to me.
I love that you are so ready for this new phase in your life in such a realistic, yet hopeful manner.
You, darling Celeste, impress me.
I love you!

j said...

So young and yet so wise. :)

Kyle Andrew said...